Striking a balance between the working life and a personal life is a goal for many, but experts weighing in say it’s a myth.

“Let’s stop the balancing charade,” business expert Madeleine Homan said in a recent article. “It is an unworthy goal and unachievable to boot.”

Keith H. Hammonds, deputy editor of Fast Company agreed, saying, “The truth is, balance is bunk. It is an unattainable pipe dream, a vain artifice that offers mostly rhetorical solutions to problems of logistics and economics. The quest for balance between work and life, as we’ve come to think of it, isn’t just a losing proposition; it’s a hurtful, destructive one.”

He suggested that the problem is we think of balance as a daily or weekly endeavor – something measured in the moment or short term. He offers that perhaps a better, more useful yardstick is a longer-term timeframe, like a lifetime.

“Instead of trying to balance all of our commitments and passions at any one time,” Hammonds said, “let’s acknowledge that anything important, and anything done well, demands our full investment. At some times, it may be a demanding child of an unhappy spouse, and the office will suffer. At others, it may be winning the McWhorter account, and child and spouse will have to fend for themselves. Only over time can we really balance a portfolio of diverse experiences.”

According to Hammonds, “For many, the great fallacy is not that we aspire to an accomplishment but that we aspire to everything else too. Unwilling to prioritize among things that all seem important, we instead invent for ourselves the possibility of having everything.”

Holman thinks we should adjust this thought. “The work-life balance zealots have us all worrying that we’re supposed to feel great all the time,” she writes.

“Let’s face it, if you are peaking professionally, you are pushing the envelope. What’s wrong with that? Great things require sacrifice. Where did we get the bone-headed idea that it was all supposed to be easy, relaxing and restful?”

Offering tools for boundary setting and creating personal standards, Holman suggested finding a way to cope and find harmony, a place that will also help us find a little peace.

“A boundary defines what people can and cannot do to and around you,” she said, adding that boundaries aligned with an individual’s priorities can help them accomplish more things important to them.

In his blog, Six Pixels of Separation, Mitch Joel said individuals should seek “life balance,” which he called “a three-legged stool” combining community, business and personal goals. “Just like a stool, if you remove one of the legs or when one is shorter than another, everything comes crashing down.”